5 Ways My Wife And I Healed Our Marriage Part 1

My wife and I healed our marriage with several steps and I will discuss some of those ways on this first post.

1.  The first thing we did was to humble ourselves and admit that our spouse was not the only problem in our marriage.   So where did this lead us?  It lead us to be willing to examine ourselves.  Which leads me to the second part of our relationship healing.

2.  We had a commitment.  We looked each other in the eye and said "I love you and I am committed to you no matter how difficult things get"  And this sort of set us free.  Now what is important for you to understand about this is that we did not only resolve to keep our relationship together but we committed to keep it joyful and trust me there is a huge difference. 

3.  And from the commitment to our relationship came action.  And for us that action was to seek help from our who we trust, love and respect with our whole hearts.  This incidentally is not the same pastor who married us.  Then it's one thing to sit in front of someone who is willing to help guide your relationship along.  But it's a different thing to act on the instructions provided to bless our marriage - which we did the best we could.  

4.  Now these steps to bless our marriage are not in perfect order.  But one of the first things we had to do is get a calender and make a schedule of how we run our days.  The truth is whether you are in a relationship or not if you don't plan your day someone or something else will.  So we had to plan our days so that we would know how we would spend our time.  We quickly discovered how much time was wasted on petty things other than our relationship.  Then those things which were not so important we placed time limits on them.  For some people it's just TV.  

5.  Finally we placed in the schedule quality time we would spend together.  We knew this is something which was critical to our relationship of joy.  And we also knew it was an area of which we lacked greatly.  So we began with making sure the kids were to bed at least 2 nights a week earlier than usual so we could spend quality time with each other in our home.  Quality time was a big focus on the schedule and still is to this day - even with 3 young kids.