Warning Signs of Future Spouse Abuse

I wrote the original article on the Ezine article and a few other directories which were quite popular.  So I will write another article on serious warning signs to watch out for to protect yourself in the future from abuse.  

First I will  quickly categorize at least in my mind for you what I perceive as two different kinds of abuse and I will call them physical and emotional.  Physical abuse is obvious and the most urgent so I will address that in this post.  Even though emotional and physical abuse will often times be tied together as you will understand shortly I will discuss that another time.  

The category of emotional abuse (for now) I will place under substance abuse of various kinds, addictions, and gambling.  These can all lead to physical abuse but are not as urgent if someone is getting beat up physically.  

So let's get to it.  If your spouse has fits of rage and destroys wedding pictures in particular and other valuable sentimental things in your home - this is bad.  At this point you need to draw a line and explain if that behavior continues they have to leave or you will.  There is a special concern of this happens over sex.  If you are unable to provide sex for your husband exactly when or how he wants it and he loses control of himself - this is dangerous for you.  He may say things like "I'm going to kill myself" and crazy things like that.  Over sex at that time?  That's a serious sign you could be in danger in the future. 

I mean I'm not a doctor and AM NOT giving professional advice of any kind.  And if you have cheated on each other in the past then that places a whole new spin on things.  There could be reason for suspicion.  But all things being equal, if he or she throws fits of rage it's serious and you need protect yourself. 

Now a man or woman speaks from the overflow of their heart.  So if they threaten physical harm to you or your children - get out!  This is serious.  I mean no person who is in their right mind will threaten to kill his wife and kids.  I mean if he or she says I'll punch your head in once in 5 years and the person is seriously remorseful that's NOT what I'm talking about.  But if he or she threatens to kill you and/or your kids often then they won't have problem doing this.  

I don't know your spouse and have no idea of your situation nor am I giving professional advice.  But I just think it's common sense.  By the way in my home neither my wife or I would EVER "I'll punch your head in" or anything silly like it for that matter.  And we are far from perfect but that's just completely unacceptable.  

So draw the lines if these things happen immediately or they can get out of hand quickly.  Make it very clear to your spouse that if such and such ever ever happens again you will leave or they must leave.  

So plan ahead also if you think you are in real danger.  Know what to do - hide a spare set of car keys someplace, have a special emergency text message you can text one of your friends and take steps you need to protect yourself AND your children.  

Thank you, Billy Damore